Alhaj Md. Abu Yusuf: Mankind is the inevitable companion of the current of life `Male` and `female` have given this way of life to mankind since the time of the first man, Adam. In the present world, seven and a half billion people have inherited a series of epochs a well-known saying about human beings is known to almost everyone - ‘Human beings are animals of judgment’. It is this sense of justice that sets humans apart from other animals. That is why man, instead of living like other animals, has built an orderly social and family life with Allah-given intelligence. Throughout the ages, the messengers sent by Allah have inspired the formation of this family. It is from this orderly family structure that people get the light of civilization. Civilization seems to be a constant companion with the family structure. Where there is no family structure, there is not much difference in the way of life of other fauna with what is meant by civilization. Families are formed through the combined efforts of both men and women. There is a subtle issue of the mutual contribution and rights of men and women embedded in the word `combined`.

From prehistoric times, different religions and ideologies have expressed different views on the rights and relations of men and women. According to these views, all religions and doctrines except Islam alone have turned women into consumer goods or servants of male deities. Even in this golden age of civilization, there are still divergent views on the relationship and rights of men and women. In Western society, the family structure has broken down and there is a practice of extra-marital living together. In addition, as far as the practice of marriage is concerned, the level of divorce is high due to differences of opinion on the issue of mutual rights of husband and wife. In a society where marriage is not required for live-together, it is easy to imagine how trivial the rate of divorce is. Although the Western world claims modern civilization in terms of knowledge or technological excellence, the declining family structure has brought Western civilization to the forefront of the world. The influence of their bad culture is now spreading among the Muslim nation as well. As a result, family chaos has increased tremendously But if the two pillars of the family, the parents or the husband and wife, had a clear sense of duty, the problem might not have arisen. Many educated families are also facing such problems due to lack of proper Islamic education. These educated families think of their mutual rights by Western standards, where men and women live freely like animals. Therefore, Muslim couples should be aware of their own religion and be motivated by mutual sense of duty and adhere to it properly. Only then can it be seen that the world has become a golden nest of peace. There is no denying that Islam has set the highest standards in establishing strong bonds and mutual rights between husband and wife. Before Islam, women were not considered human beings. The Greeks thought they were Satan`s spies. They were used to meet biological needs. The same was the case with the Romans. The girls were sold there. The history of burying a girl alive in Arabia in the age of ignorance is well known. Even in Persian civilization, the girl child was considered to be very unlucky. The situation in China was so dire that when a daughter was born in a family, the neighbors and relatives would express their grief and sympathy. That means women were a commodity. No personal human being was acknowledged by them. And the followers of Hinduism used to burn the dead man and his wife alive. They saw such a tragic event as a sign of the wife`s love and devotion to her husband. What a surprise, without giving the widow the right to property, gave the order to burn the cheetah alive! In this way, women`s identities were humiliated in various ways in different parts of the world.

With the advent of Islam, women got their basic human rights. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) declared, "O Muslims! You have the same rights over your wives as you have over them." Allah Almighty said, "Women are your garments and men are your garments." Through these groundbreaking declarations, women regained their rights, regained their existence as human beings, breathed a sigh of relief and became proud partners of the acclaimed creators of civilization. In the words of the national poet Kazi Nazrul Islam-

Everything in the world is beautiful, forever beneficial

Half of it is done by women, half by men.

Islam has ensured the building of an ideal society by making women and men aware of their mutual rights as well as by formulating clear principles for the provision of family discipline. The root of the family is husband-wife or parents If there is no practice of discipline and morality in the life of husband and wife, then it cannot be expected in the life of their future generations. And society is the collective form of husband and wife and their descendants. And the state is the larger organization of the social structure. Therefore, it can be said that the family is the main basis of discipline and ideology of a state. Islam, therefore, has given a proper outline of the duties and responsibilities of the husband and wife towards each other in the provision of mutual discipline and morality between the family and the parents and their children. Because the strong bond between husband and wife is the only way to provide moral discipline to the next generation. A closer look at the society reveals that there is no peace in a family where there is marital strife between husband and wife, but the next generation also becomes accustomed to a chaotic life. This family disorder is at the root of social lawlessness, drug addiction and activities devoid of human values. But such chaos in the family is usually centered on very small incidents. Mutual egoism, disrespect, disrespect, and a lack of a clear idea of ​​Islam`s standards of duty are responsible for the events. In our society, many husbands still ignorantly think that the wife is like their maid. The wife`s job is to obey her husband`s orders. Very naturally a wife does not accept the authority of such an authoritarian husband. That is why the conflict started. Husbands forget that wives have the same rights over their husbands as they do over their wives and establish patriarchal dictatorships. That is why we will try to discuss the Islamic principles regarding the duty of the husband on the wife and the duty of the wife on the husband. First of all, we will highlight the duties of a husband over his wife. This is the expectation that a man will judge himself by the standards of this principle of Islam and try to establish happiness and peace in family discipline and marital life.

Author: Alhaj Md. Abu Yusuf is a Columnist, Literary and Chairman of Ababil Hajj Group