Alhaj Md. Abu Yusuf

In order to achieve the noble goal of turning every family into a golden nest of happiness and peace, it is very important to pay proper attention to the guidelines given by Allah Almighty and His beloved Messenger.

The beginning of the family is through marriage Through marriage, the two lives of men and women flow in a single stream There is a proverb in Bengal that oil never mixes with water That is, reunion does not happen So disaster 6 can be seen If the relationship between husband and wife is like oil and water, then there will be family catastrophe - this is normal. The question is how to choose men and women? Before we talk about rights or duties, we try to solve this question

In the case of marriage, the four virtues of the bride have been mentioned in the hadith These are- Aishwarya, aristocracy, beauty and piety Imam Reza (AS) said, "The greatest asset for a man is to have a believing woman, a woman who will be happy as soon as she sees him and will preserve his wealth and honor in his absence." ৷ Because the value of the other three qualities is insignificant to the deendar woman ৷ because the deendar woman does not boast of wealth, nobility or beauty If there is no wealth and hereditary equality, there is a lot of problem If the husband is very rich -If the mother is relatively rich, there is a risk that the husband will be cheated on in small ways or in various ways, especially in the way of life, and from these, family problems usually arise. It is important to keep in mind that there is no such thing as a "forced marriage" and that the consequences of a forced marriage are never positive. In that case, sincere fulfillment of the duties of the husband towards the wife and the duties of the wife towards the husband is an indispensable condition of happiness and peace. We are first trying to highlight the aspects of the husband`s duty towards his wife from the Islamic point of view.

The pillars of a family are two Men and women i.e. husband and wife, either of these two has to take custody of the family Parentless Zero Family Chaos. The family organization has many relationships at home and abroad. Moreover, since men are naturally stronger than women in some respects, Allah Almighty has declared men as wives and guardians of the family. "Men are the guardians and nurturers of wives," he said. On the other hand, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "Men are the head of the family, and those who are the head have a duty to be responsible to their subordinates."

Therefore, according to the Qur`an and Hadith, since the guardianship of the family has been entrusted to the husband, so the responsibility of the husband, that is, the guardian of the family, is much greater. The male head has to be the chief disciplinary officer of the family In the family where the exception can be noticed, the disaster comes down However, the important thing to keep in mind here is that the head of the family should not think of others as his subjects but should create a beautiful, orderly environment based on mutual advice, sincerity and foresight with respect and affection. Since the wife is the main collaborator of the husband in the family organization and the main person in the internal discipline of the family, it is important for the husband to fulfill his proper responsibilities over the wife. It is a well-known fact that in the long run, there is always the risk of stumbling. And where the coexistence of the individual and the personality takes place and if it is an event like the transition of the long family life of two personalities like husband and wife, then it is not impossible for any small problem to arise. And if there is a problem, we should not try to find the culprit but try to find a solution. Because man`s natural human weakness is the cause of guilt As a result, if you go to find faults and errors, unnecessary embarrassment will increase In that case, it is wise to be patient If the wife is to blame after the problem is solved, she cannot be reprimanded Because the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, "No believing man should hate a believing woman." The wife may be to blame so does it have any quality? If there is a quality, then it is a parental behavior to highlight the qualities and suppress the faults. Allah Almighty says in the Holy Qur`an, `Treat your wives well If you dislike them, it is not impossible that Allah has amassed much good in them. Tolerance must be shown in accordance with God`s code of conduct regarding wives It must be remembered that benevolence is inherent in goodness, and intolerance is inherent in disaster.

Husband must be a lover Through love, through love to build a close relationship with the wife Every wife wants her husband to love her alone But wives do not usually open their mouths for love That is why the husband is entrusted with a great responsibility to discover his wife Every human being has his own personal likes and dislikes The wife`s favorite things অর্থাৎ what she likes and what she dislikes must be taken into account. In the same way, he has to pay attention to the things he wants and gets After discovering these, one has to be sincere about seeking and getting justice and fulfilling one`s rights If the husband can persuade the wife with his behavior and attitude, then the wife will be attracted to the husband and he will also show his love. And if his wife loves her husband, then she will be sincere in arranging his family Women naturally expect affection, caress and love The more she gets affection and caress, the more she becomes beautiful A woman is such an emotional character that she does not hesitate to give up much to gain affection and affection and to become loved by everyone. The girl who grew up receiving the affection of her parents from an early age, when she gets married and comes to her husband, naturally she wants to fulfill all the desires of love and affection from him. She wants to get as much love from her parents, siblings, friends, relatives as she has received from her husband after becoming a wife. As a result, think about how much love a wife expects from her husband and the wife deserves it, because the wife has left her relatives and brought the ultimate trust in the only husband. It is very important to look at his sacrifice with respect

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Whoever says to his wife, `I really love you,` never forgets his wife." It is clear from this Hadith that a wife should not be loved in her heart, love should be expressed orally and love should be sincere and genuine. If you are away from your wife, you should do regular research Talking on the phone from the office in between work cuts the loneliness of the wife If you live abroad, you can write a letter Expressing feelings of lack by phone increases sincerity despite the distance ৷ Wherever you go for a walk, the wife will realize that her husband has not forgotten her, even if it is a small gift for her. A little gift will become a genuine sign of love In return, the life of the husband will be blessed with the priceless love of the wife, the family and the marital life will flourish. (2^nd Episode)

Author: Alhaj Md. Abu Yusuf is a Columnist, Literary and Chairman of Ababil Hajj Group