Alhaj Md. Abu Yusuf

The number of friends in the world is very low. People often pretend to be well-wishers, but those good wishes can be followed by a far-reaching evil. Family happiness in particular is often not tolerated by neighbors or close ones.

So they are bewildered by the thought of ruining that happiness in any way. However, not all neighbors or relatives are like that. So in order to know the relatives, one should check to understand the real benefactor. This verification work should be understood gradually over time so that the neighbor does not feel any pain in realizing the matter. This is not to say that people should be suspicious all the time, but that this warning is to prevent people from harming you and your family. It has been seen that many families have broken up only because of outsiders.

A well-known scholar says that jealousy dries up in the thought of why his neighbor is so happy. So the neighbor tries to punish the friend with a far-reaching plan to do harm. At one stage of friendship, the real work begins, that is, the mischievous attempt to create distance between husband and wife or between husband and wife. Usually when women get together in one place, they start telling strange stories as well as stories about their husbands. These stories are not always pleasant. The habit of gossiping and slandering is a little more common among women. As a result, she started slandering her husband while slandering him. There is no exception, but it is not. And the wicked take advantage of this opportunity to create discord. They also talk about who their husbands are, what they do for a living, and what their husbands are up to. One even told the other while talking - why did you go to marry a man of such a profession! Was it difficult for a beautiful girl like you to get a better groom? You wish you could marry anyone, aha Ray! Etc. These words may seem sympathetic at first glance, but the seeds of doom are hidden inside. These words are nothing but indirectly condemning the girlfriend`s husband. The words will resonate again and again inside the girlfriend to whom these words are heard. Then husband hatred will start. The result can be family chaos, conflict, and even separation.

In fact, those who speak in this way are the devils who meet women. They are the enemy of family life. Although the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) told us to refrain from doing such heinous deeds, many people cannot give up this habit. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Those of you who claim to be Muslims, but have failed to awaken true faith in their hearts, do not speak harshly about other Muslims, nor find fault with them. You will treat him in the same way. As a result, he will be despised in the society. He will not be able to defend himself even if he hides himself in the house. "

Many relatives, like their relatives, give such advice to their daughters, which make the survival of the daughter in the husband`s family doubtful. And the girl also wants to accept the words of her relatives. Because he thinks of them as his own. But this idea is not correct. Because after marriage, most of the girls are their husbands. It should be kept in mind that the families of many girls have broken up due to the sniffing of their relatives. In fact, the guidance of the Prophet is the most effective in this regard. She said, "The best of your women is the one who give birth too many children, who is loving and pious, who does not surrender to the will of her relatives, but is loyal to her husband. She keeps herself away from him, listens to and obeys her husband with her heart, obeys her husband`s wishes alone and does not allow her decency to be tarnished under any circumstances. "

The Hadith speaks of adornment and maintaining decency. These two issues are really important. Many people dress up just to go out, but they don`t dress up at home, that`s not right. It is necessary to stay at home all the time. Remember - husbands always want to see their wives as beautiful and smart. Not everyone can express this, but in their minds all husbands expect. Another thing is that if he finds his wife in a clean room, then the husbands do not go out and look at the house and they are anxious to return home - which is the expectation of every wife.

Decency is a metaphorical word. Its application is justified in all cases. In all matters of speech, movement, manners, dress, manners, etc., decency is a great thing. Maybe your husband is angry for some reason; will you react with a grumpy face then? No. The decency here is that you stay normal and use sincere tactics to reduce anger rather than react, when the situation is favorable, talk slowly about the cause of the anger or about the inconsistency. This is called decency. It is decency to deal with the situation with patience in every matter. This decency is not only indicative of patience but also makes your role more personable and majestic.

Author: Alhaj Md. Abu Yusuf is a Columnist, Literary and Chairman of Ababil Hajj Group