Alhaj Md. Abu Yusuf

(15th Episode)

In this episode of the abode of peace, we will highlight the guidelines of Islam regarding the normal responsibilities of a wife in a family, such as housework, cleanliness, hospitality, etc.

And through this episode of Golden Nest, we will end the discussion on the mutual duties and responsibilities of husband and wife. We are all fairly familiar with such a Hadith in "Cleanliness is a part of faith". Another Hadith in this regard is as follows: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: Since Islam is pure, you should strive for cleanliness. Because only the clean will be allowed to enter heaven.

Any conscious person knows that garbage is the paradise of disease germs, whether it is in your house or outside, it has the same characteristics. As a result, if the house is dirty, if it is stored, then the disease-germs must spread from there. Therefore, the house should be kept clean and tidy as soon as possible. Nowadays, some of the educated housewives want to shorten the house cleaning work. It is not right to have such a mentality. Rather the educated should think those who are uneducated they will learn from the educated. So educated women should decorate their house in the most beautiful way. Then it will be a beautiful example for the society that education helps women to become good housewives. An educated housewife can feel proud and prove that an educated housewife is much better than an uneducated housewife.

Housework is an unwritten responsibility of women. These responsibilities include cleanliness, cooking, child rearing. One of the sayings of Hazrat Ali (AS) is, "Clean the cobwebs from your house, because the cobwebs are the cause of poverty." From his statement, it is understood that the house and door have to be cleaned every day. Because spiders hatch in a very short time. After daily eating and drinking, all the dirty utensils starting from the dishes, pots and pans should be washed and kept clean. Of course, husbands should also cooperate with their wives as much as possible. Since cooking is usually done by girls, the sole responsibility of clean health is in their hands. If women show negligence or carelessness in this regard, then all the members of the family may fall ill. So it is important for women to be aware of the nutritional value of food. Educated women can play an important role in this. Besides, the lucky husband`s wife knows how to cook well; will he leave his wife`s delicious cooking and go out to eat? The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: The best of you is the one who perfumes herself, prepares food efficiently and does not spend extra.

People have a range of social creatures. This range is formed by the combination of friends, relatives and neighbors. Kinship or friendship is a matter without which people become lonely. So when a person desires a friend or companionship, his companionship becomes a cause of self-peace. In any family, therefore, relatives, friends and acquaintances come and go. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) placed great importance on inquiring about the relatives and assisting them in times of danger. Hospitality has thus become a Muslim tradition. And the matter of entertaining this guest mainly depends on the housewife i.e. the wife. Undoubtedly the arrival of a guest brings joy to a family.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “The food of the guest is provided by Allah, and when the guest enjoys that provision, the sins of the householder are forgiven. People can forget personal depression or tension even for a short time. There are many housewives who don`t like hospitality even though your closeness is so useful and dear. There are some reasons for this. It is a trivial matter, the furniture is a necessary thing, but it has become a fad as the rich have created a kind of competition in it. The second reason is that you are annoyed with the hospitality as it is a financial loss and a laborious matter. Neither of these should be allowed. They should be invited to your home just as they should. In any case, it is not right to be annoyed when you invite friends. Both husband and wife will discuss and fix the issues of the invitation. Do all the work of marketing, cooking, etc. on the basis of mutual advice. As a result, the arrival of guests will bring joy to your family. On the other hand, one of the circumcisions of the Prophet will be observed.

Author: Alhaj Md. Abu Yusuf is a Columnist, Literary and Chairman of Ababil Hajj Group